Why We Still Live in a Man’s World

Ella Valentine
8 min readJun 26, 2022

While gender equality and female entrepreneurship are still a trend, everything our society is showing us today is how women are still considered to be lesser than men, have fewer rights and are controlled.

Whether you side with Johnny Depp or Amber Heard and whether she was abusive or not, the aggressive demonising of Amber has proven that it’s easier to hate a woman than to hate a man. Rapists and pedophiles of power like Harvey Weinstein and Jeffrey Epstein were certainly cancelled, but the treatment Ms Heard has been getting over her alleged verbal abuse towards Johnny Depp is far worse than convicted and jailed rapists and pedophiles like Weinstein and Epstein. Why? I ask WHY? I genuinely don’t have another explanation than to think that this is because she is a woman. If you do, please tell me.

In a recent article for The New Yorker, author Jessica Winter puts it nicely:

She lost despite vile text messages from Depp, spinning out violent fantasies of rape and murder. She lost despite photograph after photograph of cuts, bruises, and swelling. She lost despite audio recordings of Depp verbally abusing her. She lost despite her sister, multiple friends, a makeup artist, and a couples counsellor attesting to seeing her injuries. And she lost despite facing the jury and recounting graphic, painful episodes of alleged physical and sexual violence.

Heard, admittedly, was not good on the stand during direct examination — she did a lot of tearless crying, and she often appeared to be performing her sorrow rather than reliving it. Then again, if Heard had testified with perfect composure, she might have been pilloried as calculated and unfeeling; if she had cried an ocean, as Patricia Bowman did when she testified against William Kennedy Smith, in his 1991 rape trial, she might have been ridiculed as messy and hysterical, just as Bowman was. But that returns us to Rottenborn’s list of all the pincer movements that close in on abuse victims. The accuser’s affect and presentation are somehow a more damning incrimination than, say, a video of her alleged abuser trashing a kitchen.

Heard’s attorney, Benjamin Rottenborn, described a series of Catch-22s that often ensnare women who, like Heard, accuse their partners of domestic violence.